We are forever linked to the thoughts of our ancient ancestors to our very being of today. Our feelings, fears, anxieties are passed down from generation to the next generation and is incorporated into our modern self. For some the eye color may be different. Perhaps our skin color or hair textures from our previous ancestors are not the same as our modern self of today. However, how they thought and lived their life has been passed down to us. It is simple to see. The way our mothers hold us in their arms, or special foods that are at the table for dinner. Maybe it is the holiday rituals that many of us observe today but are unaware of the sacred meanings of why we are performing them. Perhaps it is the stories that were spoken to us as children, or how our caregivers disciplined us. All of this connects us to the past and it is integrated in our thoughts and what we perceive as reality of today.

Therefore, their experiences has become our experiences regardless whether we had every met them or even heard about them. Moreover, our inner beings are listening and feeling their stories in our psyche. Many times it has settled in so well it is hard to place a filter on them and take away only the good thoughts.

An example that I like to use is how people feel about dogs. When we look at dogs in history, many believed that they were dirty and dangerous and unfit to be loved. On the other hand, the English Queen, Victoria looked upon her dogs as companions. She even slept and ate with them because she loved them so dearly. Both of these thoughts processes are a perception of reality. Within our own families if someone had a bad experience from a dog, most likely a dog will not be the loving pet within the family. However, the reality that is true, dogs are helpful and are beneficial to our emotional well-being.

Therefore, in order to change the story patterns of behavior that is inside, there has to begin with a transformation. This change starts with the knowledge of being authentic with self and recognized the behavior that hinders you of feeling worthy. Don’t play games with your mindset; be honest (without self deprecating). Find the reality of the situation and how it can help you to move forward with healing and wellbeing.

The ways to do this is to keep your thoughts simple. Start with one thought that is most concerning to you.

Don’t start with the answers that you already have inside you. Remember, these are old thoughts that have already have stories attached to them. Start with a “new page” of thought. Picture yourself with encumbered heavy baggage around you. In a quiet place, slowly start to open one thought (baggage) at time. Pause to reflect on what it is that you want to keep and what you want to discard. Be authentic to self of how you were feeling about this thought. Take note of how you feel when you start to open the baggage of thought. Maybe you are breathing of little slower, because you let go of the anxious feeling that you had. Perhaps you may have found joy that you know that you are truly loved. Or, you have feelings of just feeling good.

There is no right or wrong way of doing this exercise. This is your experience of moving forward where you can find, joy, contentment and wellbeing because of who you are.